Everyone has them.
Lots of them.
Life has always been this way, but with the popularity of social media, they seem louder and more prevalent. Don’t get me wrong, opinions are great, it’s how so many deep discussions get started, but some people are forgetting that opinions are NOT fact.
I’m talking to you mom-shamers!
I recently had a friend of mine completely torn to shreds for posting a picture of her kid in a car seat. A car seat picture is the mom equivalent of wearing a political shirt in public…you’re asking for it.
There was nothing wrong with her picture. Her son was 8 shades of precious before school, cheesing as big as his little face could, and she wanted a picture. She hadn’t buckled him in yet.
People were attacking her for not buckling him in.
Hello! The car isn’t moving, and she is standing next to him with the door open. Chill!
People were commenting things such as:
“Maybe you should make sure your child is secure before taking pictures”
“I hope to God you didn’t drive off without him secure”
Someone else included a picture diagram of how to correctly use a car seat.
I can’t make this up y’all. She was eviscerated for sharing an innocent and sweet moment with her son, because people assume they know the situation and all of the facts. Of course she was going to drive off without buckling him in, survival of the fittest right?
I had moments of mom-shaming before I became one. Fictional children are extremely easier to parent than actual ones. I always said I would never feed my kids anything other than natural and organic food.
Someone without children reads that as doable task.
Now that I have a child, that task is impossible. Tom Cruise wouldn’t accept that mission. She eats healthy, but guess what?
- Sometimes I’m tired and I make her chicken nuggets and fries.
- I’ve seen her eat boogers.
- She tried mud once because it looked like chocolate
- I’ve witnessed her drop a sucker on the ground, pick it up, dust it off, and say “5 second rule”.
- I caught her putting toilet water in her sippy cup when she was 2.
And after all of that, my kid is perfectly fine. She’s rarely sick too, probably from the immune boost the 5 second rule gives.
My point is, we all mom differently. Your mom was a different kind of mom too. I think we have become a society that goes out in search of a problem to complain about. Use your common sense, don’t mom-shame unless an actual life threatening event could occur.
I know a lot of moms that parent differently than I do. In fact, some the complete opposite. If the kids are happy and healthy, then mind your own circus. Either be a light or go talk about my kid eating mud behind my back. Being a mom is hard enough without a bunch of critiques that haven’t even seen the movie commenting.
Good luck out there, and for the love, don’t post a car seat picture!